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Franki Cookney

@FrankiCookney

Franki Cookney is a freelance journalist specialising in sex and relationships, gender politics and social development

<p>Of course I like being made to feel special with gifts. Who doesn’t? But sometimes it isn’t the response you want or need </p>
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Kiss goodbye to your ‘love language’

<p>Franki Cookney explains why 2024 is the year we stop letting other people tell us what it means to be in a relationship </p>
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Star Trek-themed polyamory? Don’t knock it till you’ve tried it...

<p>For all his airheadedness, Ken’s struggle to balance bravado with the intense insecurity that comes with trying to live up to a masculine stereotype clearly struck a nerve </p>
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Top tip for men dating women this year: Be more Ken

<p>The trick is to notice our tension levels rising before we reach boiling point and act</p>
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How to get through Christmas without losing your temper (or your mind)

<p>Some users don’t exchange phone numbers for the entire first year of their relationship </p>
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Forget Tinder – this is why dating is better on Instagram

<p>Why not just be upfront about what we want?</p>
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The most important new year relationship resolution you’ll ever make

<p>From a really young age, we are taught that there are ‘good’ relationships and ‘bad’ relationships. The ‘good’ ones are long and happy (although precisely how this is achieved remains vague)</p>
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The ‘perfect relationship’ doesn’t exist

<p>Touch is the primary way we communicate intimacy </p>
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This simple move can spell disaster for your relationship

<p>Dolly Parton has joked in the past that the real secret to a happy marriage is to ‘stay gone’ </p>
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Why the ‘secret’ to marriage is sometimes getting a divorce

<p>A key tip when talking about sex is to make sure you have the conversation outside the bedroom. Choose a neutral space, in a moment when you aren’t tired, hungry, or preoccupied</p>
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Why you need a monthly meeting about your sex life

<p>I already know the answer to ‘Why is my sex drive low?’ before I even start to type it</p>
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I asked an AI sex coach for advice – and here’s what happened

<p>Seeing sexual relationships on screen is one of the ways people learn about them, so if they’re done well, as in ‘Sex Education’, that can be a positive thing</p>
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Gen Z are right about sex on TV

<p>People who are ‘phubbed’ themselves are more likely to ‘phub’ others, further contributing to feelings of isolation </p>
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How ‘phubbing’ could be wrecking your relationship

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How ‘phubbing’ could be wrecking your relationship

<p>People who are ‘phubbed’ themselves are more likely to ‘phub’ others, further contributing to feelings of isolation </p>
<p>‘I tried to convince a recent match to come shopping with me,’ writes Franki Cookney </p>
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We’re doing dating wrong! Forget coffee – go furniture shopping

<p>One of the comedian’s accusers claims she was ‘picked up from school by cars BBC paid for’ </p>
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Sex with a 16-year-old when you’re 30 is just wrong…

<p>We know that trauma stays with us and can show up in our bodies in a myriad of ways</p>
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Ever had bad sex? You’re not alone and the effects can last for years

Grace Millane's killer has been sentenced to life in prison, with no parole for at least 17 years
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I’m delighted the ‘rough sex’ defence has been banned

Grace Millane's killer has been sentenced to life in prison, with no parole for at least 17 years
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I’m delighted the ‘rough sex’ defence has been banned

Pubic nuisance: waxing is now routine for younger women
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Will the debate around women’s body hair ever end?

A still from episode one of Mums Make Porn
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Women enjoy porn. Now let's have a proper conversation about it

A protester holds a placard while marching through London after a candle-lit vigil to mark the international day to end violence against sex workers
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Finally the law understands how consent works

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If teens regret sex, it's time to ditch the notion of The First Time

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