Beam Me Up Softboi creator explains the cycle of online dating

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Beam Me Up Softboi’s Iona David explains the cycle of online dating

We’re thrilled to be joined by Beam Me Up Softboi creator Iona David to discuss the tiresome (and sometimes bleak) cycle of online dating. Iona examines what it means to be a softboi, the different types that might crop up on your swiping quest, and why you should be wary of dating one.

Iona’s book, Is This Love Or Dopamine?: A Deeply Unofficial Study of Dating in the Digital Age is out now.

Check out Millennial Love on all major podcast platforms and Independent TV, and keep up to date @Millennial_Love on Instagram and TikTok.

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