Mena Suvari says being raped aged 12 ‘sucked the life out of me’

The actor first revealed she was sexually abused in her memoir

Kate Ng
Wednesday 27 July 2022 09:01 BST
Related: American Beauty trailer

Your support helps us to tell the story

From reproductive rights to climate change to Big Tech, The Independent is on the ground when the story is developing. Whether it's investigating the financials of Elon Musk's pro-Trump PAC or producing our latest documentary, 'The A Word', which shines a light on the American women fighting for reproductive rights, we know how important it is to parse out the facts from the messaging.

At such a critical moment in US history, we need reporters on the ground. Your donation allows us to keep sending journalists to speak to both sides of the story.

The Independent is trusted by Americans across the entire political spectrum. And unlike many other quality news outlets, we choose not to lock Americans out of our reporting and analysis with paywalls. We believe quality journalism should be available to everyone, paid for by those who can afford it.

Your support makes all the difference.

Mena Suvari has described how being sexually abused as a child made her feel a “loss of sense of self”.

The American Beauty star revealed that she was raped at age 12 by one of her older brother’s 16-year-old friends in her 2021 memoir, The Great Peace.

In a new interview, Suvari, 43, opened up about her experience, which she said “sucked the life out of me”.

In her book, Suvari wrote that she “spent almost my entire life feeling disgusted, ashamed, and in denial about what happened to me”.

She detailed how the rape led to more abusive relationships with older men and a drug addiction to cope with the traumatic experiences.

Speaking to The Guardian in an interview published on Wednesday (27 July), Suvari said she had always “struggled to be seen and heard” as the youngest of four children.

“But I didn’t feel such a loss of sense of self until I was 12. When I was raped,” she said.

She said that, after she was sexually abused, her brother’s friend told his classmates that she was a “whore”.

“That sucked the life out of me,” Suvari said. “I think that was just excessive confirmation that no one was going to save me, no one was going to do anything for me.”

She also revealed in her memoir how she developed a bladder infection due to the rapes, but her doctor prescribed her contraception instead of investigating what had happened.

Asked what the adults in her life were thinking, she responded: “I feel like we would have to talk forever about that.”

Mena Suvari
Mena Suvari (Hachette Books)

Elsewhere in her memoir, Suvari detailed the substances she turned to in order to “numb myself from the pain”.

“Alcohol. Pot. Coke. Crystal meth. Acid. Ecstasy. Mushrooms. Mescaline. It was my way of detaching from the hell of my existence – and surviving,” she wrote.

Suvari married prop master Michael Hope in 2018 and shares a one-year-old son with him. She is set to play Ronald Reagan’s first wife, Jane Wyman, in a forthcoming biopic about the former US president alongside Dennis Quaid.

If you have been raped or sexually assaulted, you can contact your nearest Rape Crisis organisation for specialist, independent and confidential support. For more information, visit their website here.

If you’re worried about a child, even if you’re unsure, you can contact professional counsellors at the NSPCC for help, advice and support by emailing help@nspcc.org.uk or calling 0808 800 5000. For those aged 18 or under, Childline offers free, confidential advice and support whatever your concern and whenever you need help. Call 0800 1111 or Contact Childline.

Thank you for registering

Please refresh the page or navigate to another page on the site to be automatically logged inPlease refresh your browser to be logged in