Mother asks advice on dealing with her 'racist' six-year-old daughter

Woman says the father is teaching their little girl that 'they don’t like people with black skin'

Jon Sharman
Monday 13 November 2017 13:41 GMT
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The woman's ex-partner was said to be brainwashing their six-year-old daughter
The woman's ex-partner was said to be brainwashing their six-year-old daughter (Getty)

An “embarrassed” mother has begged for help with her six-year-old daughter who she claimed had been brainwashed into racism by her father.

Posting online under the header “my 6yo is racist”, she said that she felt like she had "failed her as a parent” after the youngster repeated what her father had said.

“A few days ago she told me her and her dad had a secret but she wasn’t [allowed] to tell me," she wrote on parenting website, Netmums.

The user, identified only as Hannah B, added: "This scared me and eventually I got it out of her."

Her daughter had told her that "their secret was they don’t like people with black skin."

She wrote: "I’ve spoken to her dad about this he just finds it funny.

"She has said: 'Dad told me all black people steal things, we don’t want to be their friends, we can’t love them'".

She claimed the girl's father had told their daughter this after their little girl had told him that "she loved Stormzy and wanted to marry him.”

She said: “I’ve said she will end up getting in a lot of trouble because of it [but] he genuinely doesn’t seem to care about the effects it has on her and others.”

She believed he was doing it partly to rile her, she added in the post asking for help from the forum’s users.

“He likes the fact it bothers me, if I pull him up on it or have a go at him it gets worse,” she said.

Asking fellow users not to judge her, she said: “I’ve tried sitting her down and explaining things to her but nothing seems to be getting through.”

Hannah said her eldest child “thinks his dad is a bully for saying these things”.

Other posters soon wrote back with sympathy and suggestions, first among which was to contact her children’s school for further advice.

Arranging play-dates with children from different races was another prominent suggestion, while some users suggested she pushed for supervision over the children’s visits to their father.

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